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Winning
Sports – It’s More Than
Just the Score
If the antics and
excesses of sports sometimes cause you
to doubt their value, an event occurred
a few days ago in a rural Washington
State middle school, that illustrated
the true potential of public school
sports.
In brief, when a local middle school
wrestling team showed up at an interscholastic
match, the visiting coach was asked
if he might have a wrestler on his team
willing to wrestle a developmentally
delayed home team student. Coach John
Graff thought that one of his wrestlers,
12-year old Connor Sherwood, was the
kind of student capable of ensuring
the well-being of his opponent. Conner,
described by his coach as a "go-getter"
who'd only lost twice the entire season,
accepted the challenge, instructed only
to not humiliate or hurt his opponent.
Originally, the contest was scheduled
to occur at the end of the evening,
but when Coach Graff noticed some of
the crowd leaving he urged that the
contest be held immediately. The next
match on a second mat was put on hold,
and Connor and his opponent Karter began
their match. Quickly, Karter's teammates
surrounded the mat, and joined by fans
in the stands started cheering and clapping
his first time performance.
No discussion between Coach Graff and
Connor was exchanged about planning
the outcome of the match. A surprised
audience was mesmerized as points between
the wrestlers went back and forth until
the final seconds of the match. Well,
you can read the rest, and also watch
a video
that we were able to secure. Enjoy!
Steve Jefferies
pelinks4u, Publisher |
Letter to the Morgan Middle
School Principal
My name is Michael Denny, and I am
the middle school wrestling coach at
Housel Middle School. Last night (January
22nd) we hosted teams from Selah and
Ellensburg in a three way meet. There
were 66 matches during the course of
the evening, but I wanted to write you
to share our feelings about one match
in particular.
Housel
Middle School coaches contacted the
coaches from Morgan Middle School to
try and set up an "unorthodox"
match for one of our wrestlers. You
see, we have an eighth grade student/athlete
who has cognitive and physical disabilities
who has turned out for wrestling this
season. His parents only wanted him
to take part in wrestling as a "manager,"
and maybe get some time on the mat during
practice to feel more like he is part
of the team and get a chance to participate
in a sport like his older brothers.
Our wrestler has been practicing each
day for the past two weeks, and was
looking forward to a match though we
were very skeptical about the possibility
or wrestling someone from another team.
We knew he would not be able to stand
up to the physical rigors of an actual
wrestling match, so we asked Coach Graf
if there was anybody on his team who
could wrestle our guy and assure us
of two things: First, we needed our
wrestler to be safe, and second, we
didn't want the match to be a mockery
or embarrassment for either wrestler
or the schools they represent.
Coach Graf contacted one of the Morgan
Middle School wrestlers, Connor Sherwood,
and asked if he would be willing to
participate in a match. He asked Connor
if he would be willing to assure us
of our wrestler's safety and dignity.
We assured Connor that he would definitely
win the match, but that we wanted our
wrestler to have a chance to wrestle
in a "real" match. Connor
thought about the situation, and indicated
he was willing to participate in the
match. We set the match to take place
at the end of the night after all other
wrestling had finished.
Coach
Graf approached the Housel Middle School
coaching staff toward the middle of
the second round and asked if we were
ready to wrestle the special match because
he wanted to make sure the crowd did
not leave before they wrestled. The
match started off how I expected, with
Connor taking it nice and slow with
our wrestler. They traded control back
and forth, and Connor allowed our wrestler
to work his moves and use moves that
occur in typical matches. All of the
coaches, wrestlers, parents, fans, and
officials knew what was happening and
we were enjoying the moment, though
we knew it would not last much longer.
Wrestlers from Housel Middle School
began lining the mat and chanting the
name of our wrestler. Wrestlers and
coaches from all three teams were watching
from their seats and the edge of the
mat. Fans in the crowd were all watching,
and eventually standing up the see how
the match unfolded. As time started
to run out we expected Connor to begin
to work toward the win, but it became
clear that something very special was
about to take place! Connor was keeping
the match close, but our wrestler began
to build a lead as the final seconds
of the third round came to an end. Connor
kept a close eye on the clock and made
sure our wrestler finished the match
with a 9 to 8 victory!
I have been involved in wrestling for
nearly 20 years as a wrestler, official,
and a coach. I can honestly say I have
never observed this kind of maturity
and selflessness from a wrestler Connor's
age, or any age for that matter. In
one match, Connor was able to give our
wrestler, his parents, our school, and
our community something to have and
cherish for the rest of our lives. There
were few, if any, dry eyes in the gym.
As I walked through the door this morning
the news of the match quickly spread
through the office and the teachers
lounge, and the majority of responses
were a teary eye and an emphatic "WOW."
As a matter of fact, I have pulled the
blinds and shut the door just to write
this letter because it is still such
a moving experience and memory.
It
seems in today's society we teach our
younger generation to "go for the
win," "don’t give up,"
"winning is the most important
thing," "don't give an inch,"
but last night we saw what is good about
school athletics and the promise of
tomorrow's leaders. Connor could have
easily taken our wrestler down, pinned
him quickly and painlessly, and it would
have been recorded as just another match.
Instead he and the coaching staff made
a decision that will forever change
everyone who watched that match last
night.
I commend Coach Graf for his continued
leadership and development of these
fine young men, but I most importantly
want to thank and pay tribute to Connor
for his thoughtful, caring, and compassionate
match! This is the kind of story I as
a coach have always hoped to share with
others. This is the type of match that
gives us so much hope for the younger
generation, and this is the match that
shows why wrestling is the oldest and
greatest sport.
In Wrestling,
Michael
Denny, Wrestling Coach
Housel Middle School
Prosser WA |
Karter's
Parents Comment…
Our son Karter is special: he is developmentally
delayed and has the mentality of a 6
year old. He does not know that he is
different from anyone else who he goes
to school with. His classmates are very
supportive of him, which makes us parents
feel secure when he is out of our sight
at school. His coaches are also very
supportive of him and encourage him
to participate in practice and learn
wrestling.
A
young man from the Ellensburg team agreed
to wrestle our son in an exhibition
match on Tuesday. Our coach explained
Karter's situation to the referee, and
with help from him and Connor Sherwood,
Karter won the match by 1 point.
This
young man, in the eyes of all who witnessed
this event, and all that have since
heard of him is the #1 HERO
in our book. For Connor to agree to
this is both very mature and admirable.
He made our son's year. It was a beautiful
thing to watch, and we will never forget
what memories he has given our son and
us. |
Final
Thoughts... It's tempting
to dismiss this story as a heart-warming,
but not "real" account about
school sports. But doing so completely
misses the point. On the contrary, what
happened at this wrestling match illustrates
exactly why sports belong in our public
schools. Where else do young people
have more opportunities to develop and
express respect, empathy, care, fair
play, honesty, responsibility, and a
whole host of other personality characteristics
all parents would love their kids to
have?
Good coaches do this daily, recognizing
that the main reason they're there is
to guide youngsters on the way to becoming
good citizens. Winning games, trophies,
and championships is just one measure
of a coach's success, and in truth the
outcome over which they have the least
control. Ironically, as we saw in this
story, sometimes it takes a 12-year
old to open our eyes and remind us what
coaching school sports is really all
about.
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